Why Should I Love Him?
Friday, January 18th, 2013Oh, this retirement is turning out to be an eye-opening disappointment. It is surely not how I planned on spending my retirement. But putting that aside, yesterday I was trapped at home. Now, I am not the kind of person to go run the roads, or go window shopping, or just go for no reason. I feel that’s a waste of time, a waste of gas. And so, unless I have an errand to run, I stay home. And that means my car stays in the garage. When I was teaching I drove my car 30 minutes one way to work, 5 days a week. Now that I’m retired, I might drive it one day a week but only for a 10-min trip. So my car doesn’t get used much, and it doesn’t charge up the battery like it should, and sure enough. Yesterday, my car wouldn’t start. Between the low driving and the extreme cold, the battery died. And so there I was — stuck.
I really didn’t have anything to do. My plan had been just to take my car out for a ride, to try to charge up the battery some. But that battery out-smarted me. It died. And I couldn’t go anywhere. And suddenly, I felt trapped. My car is 9 years old, and already has some problems with it. I had told my husband that when it died, that was it. We wouldn’t replace it. I was retired, what would I need with a new car? The few times I needed a car, I could just drive hubby to work and use his truck. But here I was, feeling trapped at my house just because the battery is dead. I’m so used to being independent. I must not be ready to give that up yet.
But to the point. I had a dead battery and everyone’s at work, including my hubby and son. And so I had to sit around and play in graphics programs to wait for hubby to come home from work so we could go get another battery.
So he changes his after-school plans to go visit his mom in the nursing home and comes straight home so he can help me out. After spending a whole day working, he changes his clothes and immediately starts removing the dead battery. He ironically comments that I didn’t know where it was, but there is a battery charger in the garage. Actually, I had thought he had one, but it wouldn’t have done me any good since I don’t know how to use it either.
So I jokingly tell him, “I think you sabotaged my car, killed the battery, so that I couldn’t go dancing with my boyfriend.” And he just laughs!   He’s so sure that I love and adore him, that he doesn’t even feel threatened by me suggesting that.
And why should I love him?
It’s not like he dropped his plans without a word to come help me.
It’s not like he has picked up extra chores around the house — like washing dishes and laundry — because I have trouble bending over.
It’s not like he has to dress me — put my socks on because my back won’t let me touch my feet now. (I can put on my own shoes because I fixed the laces so that they are loose enough to just slip my feet in.)
It’s not like he has to continue working for a while, because I had to retire earlier than planned.
He does all those things, and more for me, and does it all without complaint.
But that’s not why I love him.
I love him, because he’s cute and sexy! 8-)Â









